Managing Downtime

Yesterday, the 29th of March 2022, was day number 88. Since the beginning of the year, for the first 87 days of the year, I was feeling positive. I was upbeat. I was in high spirits. I was feeling optimistic. I felt that anything that the world throws at me I can handle. But day 88 was a different day.

Yesterday, I was down. I was feeling discouraged. I was feeling a sense of despair, hopelessness. I was feeling pessimistic, as if nothing I do will turn out right? Do you ever have days like that? While you're going through a day like that right now, the real challenge with feeling low, or having what it called downtime is that we could end up making decisions that will affect us for the long term, when we are not in a good state of mind. In extreme cases, people go to the extent of committing suicide because they're feeling so low, they get into what I could call clinical depression.

In some cases, people resort to substance abuse, just to get rid of that feeling of being so low down, out, and full of despair. So what can we do in order for us to manage our downtime so that we don't make fatal mistakes? We don't make mistakes that make a bad situation worse, or we don't even make mistakes that hope dies, all relationships, when we say things we will end up regretting just because we were feeling low, we're feeling hurt, we're feeling disappointed. What is it that we can do in order to manage our downtime, because downtime is indeed a fact of life.

Hello, welcome to the half hour with Jonah Mungoshi. And today we are discussing managing downtime. As I've already said, downtime, is a fact of life. No matter who you are, you can't always be operating at 100%. They are low moments when you add less than 50%. You can't always be happy. There are moments when you're angry. When you're sad when you're disappointed. You can't always be positive. There are moments when you feel negativity, when your energy is just being drained. When you feel like we could take our para Simba. And it doesn't look like these hope.

So what can we do in such a situation? Well, the first thing I recommend is that you need to embrace or accept your feelings without judging them. I know it's hard. But when I say judging them is when you feel bad because you're feeling bad. So why am I feeling said I shouldn't be feeling sad. That leads you into a vicious cycle where you're now feeling sad, not only because you said, but you're feeling sad, because you are angry with yourself. You're judging yourself. So embracing your feelings is to say I am unhappy. I am said and not to say it's a bad thing that I'm sad. I shouldn't be sad. No, you are human. And as a human being, you will encounter the whole range of human emotions. So the first step is to accept or embrace your feelings without judging or condemning that feeling. The same applies when you talk to somebody who says I'm feeling low, I'm feeling angry.

Important Concepts

• Embrace or accept your feelings without judging them.
• Be able to express your feelings.
• Remember to use appreciation and gratitude therapy

Don't judge that feeling and say you shouldn't be You mustn't be How can you be that does not help if anything that achieves the opposite result. Number two, you need to be able to express your feelings. This is of utmost importance to actually say, I feel happy, I feel sad, I feel lonely. I feel dejected. I feel hopeless. Just that ability to express that emotion gives you power over the emotion to a certain extent, when you can articulate it when you can express it. And when you can actually say clearly the consumer durables worker word Ziwa. It gives you some level of power over that feeling. So learn to express it and be careful.

There's a difference between feelings and thoughts. So if I say I feel you're a bad person, that is not a feeling because that is not an emotion that I have. It's a thought I'm holding. I feel you have led me down. That is not actually a feeling. That is a thought. So feeling is about your emotions. Zocaloans Why Dragoons Baku, Ferran tunesgo Su and cuckoo what is the one cat in raccoons? Zika Zika all those are feelings, but it's not about somebody else. It's about you. So the second point is you need to express your feelings. If not to yourself, then maybe to somebody whom you can trust with your feelings and not everybody can be trusted with our feelings. Point number three.

You need to remember to use appreciation and gratitude therapy. I No, at that moment in time, the last thing you want is to look at something positive. But it does work. You can confront your negative feelings with logic. So that yes, you'll still be feeling sad. But you will not feel as hopeless as when you don't attack that feeling with positivity. So how do you do this, you sit down and look at your past successes, look at the things that are working in your life, look at the blessings that you've got. So find something you can appreciate in your life, find something you're grateful for, you could actually sit down and write a whole list, a shopping list of all the things that are positive in your life. Nine out of 10 times, you will not immediately turn around and start feeling positive.

But nine out of 10 times you will not feel as bad or as low. As discouraged as you were before you started that exercise. So those are three steps you can take if you're feeling low right now. Try these out and tell me how they work out. Point number one, you need to embrace your feeling. Accept it, accept that it's natural that at some point you will feel low. And yes, I'm feeling low right now. And I don't judge myself and say Why am I feeling this low number to express your feelings. You need emotional intelligence to say I am feeling unhappy. I am feeling dejected. I'm feeling disappointed. I'm feeling hopeless.

You must be able to express what you're feeling because that gives you a certain level of power over the feeling. And last but not least, you need to use appreciation and gratitude therapy lays down the things that are working in your life, the successes that you have, what have you achieved against all odds, you might not necessarily achieve it. Instant 10 around but you start feeling better already, even if it's only to a small extent. You want to find out more about this. Let's meet on the other side.